Posts by individuals wife

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Once again, it's me

by Nicolas in

i send you this post because i have a problem with timidity.

i don't know why but, since i'm young, i have this problem.

now, i will try to see a psychologist because i want to find the reason why i have this problem.

individuals wife

Hi again Nicolas

I believe my husband has met you on this board, its nice to meet you myself - good to have you here!

I was interested to see that you linked your timidity to being young -I can understand that sentiment - I have just started back at college as a mature student in a class of 17 year olds and the majority of them seem to be the timid type. I think a lot of their timidity is due to a lack of self confidence, a quality that comes with maturity and experience, it is a big world out there and when you are young there are a lot of things to have to deal with and it can be very daunting. Also the influence of the JWs, I'm sure you would agree would only add to the list of things that a youth finds hard to cope with. Maybe these arent the reasons behind your own timidity but whatever your reasons are I am certain that a psychologist will be able to help you tremendously and help you gain that self confidence that you need.

As to your other point about your father - I know exactly how you are feeling - I have gone through those exact same circumstances myself. My father died in 1995 in very tragic circumstances, totally unexpectedly, and I grieved for him tremendously, the pain I felt at his loss was immeasurable. Then shortly afterwards I became a JW, my husband had been inactive for a number of years and we went back in together. The relief I felt upon learning about the resurrection hope was incredible. Then I left for a while, I had a real crisis of faith, again the grief for my father returned once more. I returned to the cong. after some months and again felt euphoric at the hope that I would see my father again. Then later on in my story I made the final break and disassociated. Again, the grief was overwhelming. I feel cheated now that I was ever misled and it makes me quite angry to think that some people only remain as JWs so that they may see dead loved ones again. Their motive is not right.

It is a hard thing to deal with and all I can say is that it does get easier, time is indeed a great healer. I just try to focus on the good times we had together, rememembering them with fondness and just letting the thought of whether I will meet up with him again - wherever- stay at the back of my mind.

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Mom Called Today To Brag O n The WTS

by drahcir yarrum in

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i have no way of knowing if this is true and i have my doubts, but my jw mother called a few minutes ago to inform me that at her meeting today they announced that there are about 100 jw's missing in the wtc destruction.

i guess that rules this out as having anything to do with armageddon or they wouldn't be missing.

or else their door to door activity didn't measure up.. she also told me that the nyc fire department was making use of an empty watchtower building during the cleanup.

individuals wife

Fredhall - I applaud your comment - and thank you for it. For once I agree with you. Our heart should go our to all victims. Not just a few select ones.

Like many JW's, our heart goes out to all victims

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Mom Called Today To Brag O n The WTS

by drahcir yarrum in

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i have no way of knowing if this is true and i have my doubts, but my jw mother called a few minutes ago to inform me that at her meeting today they announced that there are about 100 jw's missing in the wtc destruction.

i guess that rules this out as having anything to do with armageddon or they wouldn't be missing.

or else their door to door activity didn't measure up.. she also told me that the nyc fire department was making use of an empty watchtower building during the cleanup.

individuals wife

Fredhall,

You are unneccessarily nasty.

Drachir - I would urge caution in believing these things - I had heard that the JWs were 'rejoicing' that none of their brothers and sisters had been affected. This may have changed but I find it hard to believe that they have come up with a figure as high as 100 after first of all saying zero. I for one would hope that it is zero as I would not wish this on my worst enemy, indeed my heart bleeds for all those suffering at this time.

As to the use of a building - I cant comment on that one I'm afraid. I would hope it was true, for humanitys sake, but I have a feeling that this is wishful thinking on the part of your mum, and is just rumour and gossip. Hope I can be proved wrong, but I doubt it.

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To Babyboo

by finalcall in

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hello babyboo.

i was a jw for 38 years and was blind to many of the things that go on inside.

i never really began to see or acknowledge these things until i was on my way out.

individuals wife

Frightmare - How on earth do you come to the conclusion that final call is narrow-minded? All I can see is a genuine concern about another person and some very good advice? Why are you looking for the bad in people... oh, yes, JW training, of course....

'Screwed up congregations' are not that difficult to find - there are plenty of them around, take your pick. And as finalcall was a JW for 38 years I am sure that they are well qualified to criticise and know what they are talking about - you only have to read many of the posts on this board to realise that hypocrisy exists in the organisation on a huge scale. As well as knowing about elders that go 40 miles to go to bars I am also aware of an elder who travels 25 miles to go to a betting office. And these men are supposed to be setting an example?

It is not just the actions of some that can be criticized but also the doctrines - again there is much proof on this board of that, enough surely to satisfy anybody.

To finalcall - I thank you for your insightful post and appreciate your comments - I found the latter half very encouraging.

It takes time to break away and learn to go to Christ w/o the WTS.

How true that is, and this is just what I am trying to achieve at the moment, trying to stand on my own two feet and examine my faith for myself, not through the pages of WT publications.

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The lady of the harbor

by stephenw20 in

the lady of the harbor.

i stood alone in the harbor.

i will stand alone in the harbor.

individuals wife

Wow, I am stunned..... what moving words.

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WT says Don't look or hear news

by Patriot in

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i just got this from a witness who i bumped into yesterday.

she is very disturbed by this announcement the congo.

got on friday at their service meeting:.

individuals wife

and a PS to Patriot...

I cannot express my gratitude fully for all the work that you have been doing - I am filled with pride and admiration for you and all your fellow workers in the very difficult work that you have to do - I feel such a physical pain in my heart when I look at all the pictures on my television screen and I can only imagine the horror of the situation in which you find yourself working.

You have my deepest respect. Take care.

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WT says Don't look or hear news

by Patriot in

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i just got this from a witness who i bumped into yesterday.

she is very disturbed by this announcement the congo.

got on friday at their service meeting:.

individuals wife

dungbeetle - I couldn't agree with you more...

WT needs no help from apostates...they hurt themselves all by themselves.

.. putting down the blinds and telling the workers to carry on with their work...

.. don't watch the news, it's what Satan wants..

Just because they choose to block it out won't make the pain and suffering go away - their reaction (or the reaction of the majority)to this whole tragedy just makes me even more sure that they are not representatives of God or Jesus. Where is their compassion? Where is their empathy? Where are their Christ-like qualities? Did Jesus ever lock a door to someone facing adversity? No, he welcomed strangers with open arms and fed them, both nutritionally and spiritually. He never turned away anyone in need and yet it appears from all reports that this is just what Bethel did - locked their doors to keep the strangers away. They have a fear of man - they feared for their own safety - what happened to having a reliance on God?

I know that there are still kind and good hearted witnesses out there, although I feel that they are misguided by remaining in a loveless organisation. The attitude of the others leaves a lot to be desired and I can only imagine what God thinks of them...

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Afghan women under the Taliban

by spider in

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just found this site.

http://mosaic.echonyc.com/~onissues/su98goodwin.html.

it is pretty shocking stuff.. .

individuals wife

Spider

Thank you for highlighting this - I read about the plight of women in Afghanistan a few months ago and ever since have felt so grateful for the freedoms that I myself have - it is very sobering to realise what these poor women have to go through every day. It is so easy to take for granted all the day to day things that we do as women - we have the freedom to come and go as we please with no worry about the sort of restrictions placed by the Taliban. We take for granted the power that we women have, the ability to go out and work in whatever field we choose, the ability to vote, the ability to simply walk to a nearby shop and purchase a few groceries.

The legally mandated burqa has also become a severe financial hardship. The veil now costs the equivalent of five months salary-if any women were still receiving one. Most cannot afford to buy the garment, and whole neighborhoods must share one. It can take several days for a woman's turn to come round; even if she has money to shop for food, she can't go out until then.

It is nearly impossible for a western woman to comprehend this - to be so under the thumb of a regime that you can't even go out in the street with a bare face to gather food for your family. It beggars belief. Yet it is really happening.

It is hard to comprehend the fear that these women must feel, the terror that comes with knowing that if you step out of line then it means a severe punishment, even death. And with each generation of boys being taught that this is the right way to treat women - what hope is there for the futures of the women of Afghanistan. It makes my heart break. I can only hope that their suffering will not be allowed to continue, they needed to be treated with respect and dignity, not treated like second rate citizens.

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Bethelites 'ordered to keep working'

by bboyneko 2 in

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my sister also forwarded some "experiences" from bethelites who .

witnessed tuesday's events.

they did put some coffee and sandwiches .

individuals wife

I am stunned... but frankly not surprised. It shows the uncaring attitude of the organisation and it makes me feel so very, very sad. Pull down the blinds and carry on working? What sort of attitude is that??? Certainly not Christian. Its just callous.

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Meeting After Meeting?

by NikL in

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i went to the meeting today with the wife.

same boring talk and coma inducing wt study but.... after the meeting they called all of the attendants to the back room for a little private meeting.

anyone have any idea what was going on?

individuals wife

Meetings after meetings may be 'sinister' enough.. but what about 'meetings during meetings', this used to happen in my old congregation.

The congregation would be sat listening to the Public Talk and down the centre aisle would come the PO, tapping this brother and that brother on the shoulder and they would all rise and go out the doors at the back of the hall for a little meeting. How disconcerting for the poor chap on the platform trying to conduct his talk! What is he supposed to think? Has he said something controversial in his talk and they have gone outside to decide what to do to him??

This always seemed so rude, disrespectful and thoughtless, why couldn't they wait until the end of the meeting, or at least during the song? Or do they think the Public Talk does not apply to them and they are allowed to leave half way through it?? Was their little meeting that important that it could not wait for another 30 minutes or so? Or did the PO do it just to make himself look important?